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2025-12-12 15:06:50

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The thing about trauma is, you can carry a shit ton of trauma with you and have no clue that you have that trauma in the first place. Part of living in a world that fosters and generates trauma, is that these systems invest a lot of time and energy in shaping you to think these systems have never traumatized you. That is the nature of the abusive systems in which we exist.

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The thing about trauma is, you can carry a shit ton of trauma with you and have no clue that you have that trauma in the first place. Part of living in a world that fosters and generates trauma, is that these systems invest a lot of time and energy in shaping you to think these systems have never traumatized you. That is the nature of the abusive systems in which we exist.
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You are taught to conceive of trauma as a personal fault which you brought upon yourself as a consequence of being unable to adapt to a universally abusive system. The responsibility for the damage incurred by that system is placed upon the individual. Therefore, trauma is not recognized as such. Trauma is seen as an error in one's being.

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Trauma is also normalized as something that is a widespread condition of living in the system. Trauma is not unusual or remarkable. You are expected to just suck it up and accept it as a normal state of affairs.

Trauma is not a negative aspect that reflects the failure of the system. Trauma is a negative aspect that reflects your failure.

This is an abuser's logic and it is manifest everywhere throughout society.

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Know and understand that you are being gaslit and that all of this is bullshit.

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Specially when people keep uttering the non-sense โ€œthats how itโ€™s always been done!โ€ Thats such a unhelpful and unkind thing to say to someone whoโ€™s struggling

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๐™‰๐™ค๐™–๐™ ๐™จ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™จ ๐™จ๐™š๐™ง๐™ž๐™›
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๐™‰๐™ค๐™–๐™ ๐™จ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™จ ๐™จ๐™š๐™ง๐™ž๐™›
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it was eye opening for me when I started to see the ways in which I internalized all of that and took up the mantle of gaslighting myself long after I had distanced myself from both my abusers and the people who failed to keep me safe from them. Even though I fought so hard to get someone to see what I was going through, it took a lot of therapy to realize the extent to which I had also been conditioned to say, โ€œSurely I blew all of this out of proportion and it wasnโ€™t that bad.โ€ I didnโ€™t blow it out of proportion, but the people who brutalized me would very much like me to say that I did.
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