Stop sending 'Hi' and try this instead
Honestly, I used to be the king of sending "Hey, how's your day?" and then wondering why my inbox was a literal graveyard. It’s soul-crushing when you think you have a decent profile but get zero traction. Then I read somewhere that "Hi" is basically a chore for the other person to respond to. Like, you're putting all the work on them to start the actual convo. So I changed my strategy completely.
Now, I always go straight for their 3rd photo. I don't know why the 3rd one specifically works, but it’s usually far enough back that it’s not just a generic selfie. I’ll ask something like, "Wait, is that a dog or a tiny bear in your 3rd pic?" or "That sunset in your 3rd photo looks insane, where was that?" The reply rate literally exploded. People actually want to talk about themselves and their experiences, not just give a "good, u?" response. It makes the whole vibe way more natural and less like a job interview.
Once you get that initial spark, the real challenge is actually keeping it going without being weirdly intense. I used to panic about what to do for a first meet-up because I didn't want to do the whole formal dinner thing—it's just too much pressure and ngl, it's expensive. I’ve been looking at these chill date ideas lately to keep things low-key. Like, just grabbing a coffee or walking through a park is so much better for actually getting to know someone without the awkward table manners stuff. Tbh, it’s way easier to be yourself when you aren’t worried about which fork to use or whatever.
Anyway, it feels good to finally have some actual conversations happening instead of just staring at "delivered" icons. If you're struggling, just stop overthinking it and pick a photo to talk about. It’s a total game changer. And seriously, keep the first date simple. No need to go all out and spend a fortune just to find out you have zero chemistry lol. Just stay positive and keep trying, eventually something clicks and it’s worth the effort.
Now, I always go straight for their 3rd photo. I don't know why the 3rd one specifically works, but it’s usually far enough back that it’s not just a generic selfie. I’ll ask something like, "Wait, is that a dog or a tiny bear in your 3rd pic?" or "That sunset in your 3rd photo looks insane, where was that?" The reply rate literally exploded. People actually want to talk about themselves and their experiences, not just give a "good, u?" response. It makes the whole vibe way more natural and less like a job interview.
Once you get that initial spark, the real challenge is actually keeping it going without being weirdly intense. I used to panic about what to do for a first meet-up because I didn't want to do the whole formal dinner thing—it's just too much pressure and ngl, it's expensive. I’ve been looking at these chill date ideas lately to keep things low-key. Like, just grabbing a coffee or walking through a park is so much better for actually getting to know someone without the awkward table manners stuff. Tbh, it’s way easier to be yourself when you aren’t worried about which fork to use or whatever.
Anyway, it feels good to finally have some actual conversations happening instead of just staring at "delivered" icons. If you're struggling, just stop overthinking it and pick a photo to talk about. It’s a total game changer. And seriously, keep the first date simple. No need to go all out and spend a fortune just to find out you have zero chemistry lol. Just stay positive and keep trying, eventually something clicks and it’s worth the effort.