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I have discovered a new autistic horror. Those company workshops where people have to talk about their values and do group brainstorming. It's a oneway ticket to alienation seeing how out of a phase with others you are with either the form or the foundation of your answers. Add in, trying to ask questions to understand what you're supposed to be doing and the facilitator just repeats the directions again. It's a frustrating and depressing experience.
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in reply to donthatedontkill

I'm an old, and kind of a jerk at times, so have no problem making someone who's making me feel uncomfortable, feel uncomfortable themselves.

"Ok, that's what you just said before." Dead stare establish dominance look. (It can be learned via practice.)

"Now explain it to me like I'm autistic."

Hand the discomfort back to them.

#ActuallyAutistic

in reply to Nuclear Oatmeal

@uss_oatmeal It helps so much to have grey hair when you want to establish dominance!
in reply to Irina

@irina
You can learn it younger. I've been doing it since I was in my late 20s and was pretty sure I had that Asperger thingy.

It made me review my drama classes in HS and the LARGE state diagram I'd created regarding how people work. I decided thar mostly friendly, humorous, but immovable was the foundation that would get me through when dealing with these weird thinkers.

The "establish dominance" look was something I practiced in the mirror. A lot.

in reply to Nuclear Oatmeal

@uss_oatmeal Well, I already have grey hair so learning it younger is no option :-) But I got kicked upstairs into a position of some authority, and noticed I was actually good at it.
in reply to donthatedontkill

Why would I want to talk about values (let alone my values) in the workplace? That would be career suicide. Particularly for actually autistic me, as one of my weak suits is lying with a straight face. astoundingteam.com/wordpress/2…
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